A few ideas to kick start a mentally good you

A few ideas to kick start a mentally good you

Here are some ideas from various sites on how to make life better, taken from blogs I’ve kept my eye on during the last few months.

1. How to minimize stress and be more content with your life.

Includes suggestions to focus less on results, take things less seriously, stop comparing yourself with others, and focusing on being what you love rather than being loved.

2. How about these Golden Rules for Living?

If you open it, close it.

If you turn it on, turn it off.

If you unlock it, lock it up.

If you break it, admit it.

If you can’t fix it, call in someone who can.

If you borrow it, return it.

If you value it, take care of it.

If you make a mess clean it up.

If you move it, put it back.

If it belongs to someone else and you want to use, get permission.

If you don’t know how to operate it, leave it alone.

If it’s none of your business, don’t ask questions.

If it will brighten someone’s day, say it.

If it will tarnish someone’s reputation, keep it to yourself.

Sounds like excellent advice for anyone sharing a living space with others!

3. When it comes to problems, are you a dog with a bone?

Stop holding onto things and spending enormous amounts of time ruminating over them, constantly thinking about whatever is bugging you. All you’re doing is adding to your stress and wasting time and energy. Besides, most the issues we obsess about are out of our control. If they weren’t we’d have put them right long ago.

4. Stop setting conditions on your happiness

We all do it: tell ourselves that we’ll be happy when this or that happens, or when we’ve got whatever it is we want at the moment. It’s all nonsense. Includes this great quote from John Ruskin:

The little pig was so comforting to me because he was wholly content to be a little pig; and Mr. Leslie Stephen is in a certain degree exemplary and comforting to me, because he is wholly content to be Mr. Leslie Stephen; while I am miserable because I am always wanting to be something else than I am.

5. In the end, happiness and unhappiness are nearly all in your mind

You can choose to think pleasant, positive thoughts — and focus on what’s good about your life — or think gloomy ones and obsess about what isn’t going as you want it. 

Happiness or unhappiness: it’s always pretty much your own choice.